5 Tips For Amazing Sex After Baby!

Guess what, MOMS STILL HAVE SEX! Yes, I know shocking right.

A lot changes after having a baby. One of the most significant changes, is your body. Not only are there going to be some changes to your body on the outside, but there will be changes on the inside. Specifically, sex after baby will change, and that is NOT a bad thing. It may seem scary and I know some women have anxiety over having sex for the first time after baby, but I personally think it’s like having sex with your partner for the first time.

When my doctor gave me the green light to have sex again, she gave me a few pointers to help make the experience less, ummm….painful. Of course I went home and consulted Dr. Google in hopes of getting a little bit more advice from some fellow moms. Per the usual, I was overwhelmed by the amount of information and opinions that flossed my phone screen.

So naturally I decided to add my own take to the mix. I have narrowed it down to five simple tips to get you started, whether it’s your first time having sex after baby, or you hundredth, I believe these tips will help EVERY woman, not just mothers.

First, I want to make sure I say this, there is nothing wrong with you if you do not feel comfortable enough jumping back into bed the second your doctor gives you the thumbs up. Between lack of sleep, possibly breastfeeding, taking care of a baby all day, not showering for days on end, and a thousand other things, you might just not be in the mood for your partner to touch you. Maybe you would rather take a long hot bath, or squeeze in a nap when you can. That is all totally normal, and you are not “failing” your partner. They will understand, and if they don’t well they will just get over it. Just make sure you have that conversation together.

1. Reintroduce yourself to, well…. yourself.

Yes. No one knows you better than you know yourself, and no one should know you better than you. Maybe you weren’t big into self love before baby, maybe the idea seems taboo. Well I am here to tell you, DO YOU. And you know what I mean. Take an hour, give the baby to your partner, shut the bedroom door, turn on some music, light some candles, maybe hop into a warm bubble bath.

2. Talk with your partner

In most things in life, communication is key. Sit down and talk about the fears you may have about having sex, or any emotions you might be feeling. Make sure you explain, that things are going to be different and the same old dance routine might not do it for you anymore. Sometimes men can be simple, and when they find a strategy that works, they tend to stick with it forever. If you have taken the time to get to know your new self, tell your partner what you liked.

Once you are in the heat of the moment; make sure to KEEP communicating. Maybe you are usually quite and reserved, but now is the time to speak your mind. At this point your partner is probably driving blind, so it’s up to you to let them know what to do. They will appreciate getting a little directions and not feeling so lost.

3. Lube, it’s more important than you think!

My doctor stressed how important it was that if we haven’t already, we started using lube. She said after having a baby, and especially if you are breast feeding, your body body doesn’t produce the natural lubricant during sex, that it usually does. This can make sex a little, uncomfortable. Don’t forget the scar tissue that you may have after tearing.

Invest in a good water- based lube. Why water-based? Water-based lubes are perfect for first time lube users. They are ideal for people with vaginal irritation and/or sensitive skin, you know that comes with having a baby. Water based lubes can be used with condoms and sex toys, but they can not be used for shower sex. Another downside is that water based lubes tend to get sticky, so you may have to reapply a couple times during longer sessions.

I recommended getting a few and trying them out, and seeing what works best for you. I have included a few brands below that have been recommended to me by a good friend of mine.

They have a TON of different flavors
KY is my go to lube!
Water Based Lube options

4. Toys, they aren’t just for kids

Uh oh! Another “taboo” topic we aren’t suppose to talk about. Well, news flash, sometimes a woman CAN’T orgasm with out a little outside stimulation. Maybe before baby you could orgasm with some basic penetrative sex, but now everything’s changed and you need to bring in the big guns. This is were vibrators come into play. Now, you don’t need to go out and buy the biggest most expensive vibrator out there. A small pocket vibrator will do the trick. However, I suggest something water proof, and that has a few different settings that you can play around with and feel what works best for you! Before you use your toys with your partner, be sure to try them out by yourself first. The two below come highly recommended by a friend of mine Samara Terese, you can check out her blog at Barely Surviving My Twenties

Comes in three different colors!

5. Get rid of the kid!

That sounds harsh, I know. But there are two things that are total mood killers. One, a dog jumping on the bed trying to lick your husbands butt. And two, a baby who wakes up screaming and wants to be feed. The dog you can stick outside or give them some peanut butter until you are done. But you can’t really just stick your baby outside for a half hour. You can, however, ask a friend or relative to babysit for a few hours. If you’re child is in daycare by now, you can leave work early to have a little rendezvous with your partner before you go and pick up your sweet little one. It doesn’t make you a bad mother to take time for yourself and your partner!

I remember someone gave me a little piece of advice after I had my baby. They said “Your child is going to leave you in eighteen years, and that’s good, that is suppose to happen. But your marriage lasts forever. So don’t forget to take care of your marriage and each other.”

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I had my wedding dress made into my daughters Baptism gown

June 30th, 2019, the day that my little angel was baptized and welcomed into the Catholic faith. It was a beautiful sunny, summer day, spent surrounded by family and friends. We decided to hold the ceremony at St. Paul’s church in our hometown. This was the church that my husband grew up going to, his little sister was the first baby to be baptized in the church. Father Mike preformed the baptism, we specifically asked for him to share in this occasion for several reasons. 1. He grew up with my mother in law, they lived near each other as kids and would toilet paper peoples houses together. 2. He married my husbands mother and late father. 3. He baptized my sister in law at the same church. We were discussing logistics about Elliot’s Baptism, asking Father Mike to officiate was a no brainer.

I remember when I was trying on wedding dresses, way back in 2016/2017, we were at a local bridal store, Jacquelines Bridal. After trying on the most beautiful wedding dress, falling in love and of course saying “yes”, the owner made a comment about how I could make a baptismal gown out of the dress. That comment stuck in my mind for the next two years.

Now I know that some brides out there wouldn’t even think about cutting up their wedding dress, and at first I thought I would feel the same way. However, the more my dress just say in a closet, I came to terms with the idea of working with someone to create a gown for my daughter.

Fast forward to 2019, we were at a local Vintage Market Days And we meet a local shop owner who makes homemade baby clothes. Janice Collier quickly fell in love with Elliott, she couldn’t get over how cute she is. While she was playing with the baby, I was admiring her beautiful work. I noticed a white gown she had hanging in the back corner of her booth. I turned to my husband and said “Honey, look she makes baptismal gowns.” (I had just started looking for a gown at this point). Janice turned to me and said “Oh yea, I can even make one out of your wedding dress!” And just like that a light bulb went off in my mind. I shared my excitement, took her i formation, left her my number and we went on our way.

Days passed and the idea was stuck in my head. If you ask my husband I am like a dog with a bone, when I get an idea in my head, I can’t let it go. So I decided to reach out to Janice and let her know that I was interested in meeting with her about getting a dress made. We set up a time to meet and I began to look at inspiration on Pinterest for our gown.

The day came for us to meet with Janice, who works out of her home. Together we all sat down, with my dress, the pictures of inspiration, fabric samples, and of course Elliott. It took about an hour or so of sketching, brainstorming and picking fabric for her bonnet, until we finally settled on a design. Janice also walked me through exactly what she was going to do to my dress, and which parts she was going to use.

We decided to use most of the lace from the skirt of my dress for the gown and bonnet. The underskirt was cut and used as part of Elliott’s underskirt. The jeweled belt was removed and use to create a removable belt on the baptismal gown. That night, after we left, I was so excited I don’t think I slept that night.

It took Janice about a week to finish the dress. Now when I tell you this woman is an incredible seamstress, I mean it. She hand drew the patterns for everything. She gently removed the lace from my gown with ruining it, she updates me during the entire process sending me little snapshots of her work. And then the day came when she messaged me and told me that she was all finished. My heart skipped a beat, it was like Christmas Day. I remember we were sitting in the couch, probably watching The Office, while Elliott was playing with her toys. Janice asked if I wanted to see it, and while I originally wanted to wait to see it in person, I said “YES”.

Now I am not a crier, I rarely show my emotions to people. But let me tell you, I CRIED. It was so beautiful and exceeded my expectations. Even though it was a completely different gown, I could see my dress in it. The thought that my little girl was going to wear my wedding dress, on her special day was so sentimental. It was perfect.

God Bless Elliott Grace!

Routines for baby? Are they important?

YES! the answer is YES!I am a firm believer in getting baby on a set schedule and routine. Why? Because just like motherhood, being a baby is very unpredictable and stressful. So getting baby into a routine will make life just a bit less stressful. Now I am not a baby expert and I am just speaking about my experiences, so please do not take what I saw as the be-all, end-all. I will say though, let me toot my own horn, that many family members are shocked with how quickly our baby falls asleep at night, and STAYS asleep (except those night of sleep regression). They always say that they can’t believe it and that she is such a good baby, which I mean she is but that is just personal bias.

There are a few things to remember about creating a routine for baby. First thing, baby will pretty much dictate the schedule. Spend the first couple of weeks that baby is home to learn your baby. It is inevitable that you will lose sleep, you will be exhausted, and there is a VERY high chance that you will cry to your spouse or significant other, that you just want so sleep. I know, I have been there, right Cory. But try to remember that this is such a small part of not only your babies life, but yours as well.

Next thing to keep in mind, routines are not static, meaning they never change. Routines are dynamic, changing. I don’t mean that ever week you can expect something different, that would just be madness. I mean that with every development, sleep regression, vacation, and life event, expect a change in your routine. So it is very important to remain super flexible during this time. So if you are like my husband, and crave never changing routine, this may be slightly harder for you. But trust me, you will get used to it, I mean do you have a choice?

I mentioned sleep regression earlier, if you haven’t heard about them yet let me enlighten you for some fun times. Sleep regressions are periods of time, that usually coincide with milestone developments, where baby does not sleep as well as they use to. For example, at three months Elliott (my daughter if you are new here) went to bed at 7:30 -ish and woke up about 1-2 times a night. Crazy I know, but also the reason why routines are important. During her four month sleep regression, when she was teething, learning to crawl and becoming more aware, she was up 3-4 times a night. The fun part was that I had just returned back to work, so I was EXHAUSTED. But I lived to tell another tale.

When can you expect a sleep regression? There isn’t really a hard or fast rule, but these are the general sleep regressions most babies experience:

  • 4 months
  • 8 months (can happen from 8-10 months)
  • 11 month (or 12)
  • 18 months
  •  2 years

Like  I said these are general times, but it is nice to be prepared. Each one is associated with a specific time of brain development. But enough about that, lets get back to routines.

From the moment we brought our little bundle of joy home, we began the process of getting Elliott into a routine. We started with the nightly routine, because she really just ate and slept during the day. Because she is the boss around here, Elliott really dictated the routine. I spent the first few weeks with her tracking when she slept, wake times, and feeding times. That way I could get an idea of her schedule, and I could plan my day accordingly.

Now before I get the details of the routine, I will mention that even our night time routine has changed. Elliott was born in the fall so it was getting dark early, so that made it easier to get her used to night time. Now that it is summer and the sun is staying out a bit longer, we have had to get her adjusted to the sun filling her room when she sleeps. What I am saying is that we do not use black out curtains, because its not always going to be pitch black when baby sleeps, so might as well get them used to it.

Now the moment you have all been waiting for, what does our nightly routine look like? Our routine does not look much different from Elliott was a newborn, once she gets older and does not need as many hours of sleep, we will need to readjust the schedule.

6:30- Dinnertime, puree or finger food

7:00- Bath time, we make sure she is in the bath at the latest 7:15 depending on how long it takes her to eat dinner.

We use Johnson and Johnson Night Time body wash and lotion. I run her diffuser with lavender, or Balance blend ( from DoTerra) depending on her mood. If she is super fussy I will forgo the diffuser and put the oils directly in her bath.

7:30- Story time, I usually nurse her at this time as well because it helps top her off for bed

7:45- (at the latest), in her crib and lights out. Even if she is not asleep we will still lay her in her bed and let her soothe herself to sleep.

She does have a night light and sound machine in her room that runs all night. The light is mostly for me so when I check on her during that night, I do not wake her by turning the light on. The sound machine helps drown out all of the other sounds in the house and in the neighborhood.

Elliott is 8 months, which means she has started her 8 month sleep regression. So while she was sleeping until 4 am, waking up to eat, and returning to bed. Now she is waking up 3 times a night, and at 5 am she is ready to play. It’s a lot of fun.

I kind of worked backwards starting with bed time, because to me it was the most important. Everyone needs their rest, and this helped to ensure we all got a good nights sleep. But let us look at what I think is a pretty standard day time routine.

5 am- Wake up and Play, she usually just crawl around in my husband and I’s bed for a little bit

6 ish am- Nurse,  return her to her crib, after a diaper change, she will fall back asleep

7:30/8 am- Wake up, breakfast, get ready for the day. During the school year my husband would drop her off at daycare during this time as well

8 am- Playtime

9:30- Morning nap

10:45 am- Playtime, nurse

12:30 ish- Naptime

1:30/2- Lunch time, Playtime

3:30- Nurse

4:00- Naptime

5:30- Playtime

6:30 pm- Dinnertime

During the school year, since I am working and Elliott is in daycare, the routine may change slightly, like when she will nap and play time. But her feeding usually stay consistent, for now.

I could go on for longer about sleep training, feeding schedules, sleep regressions, and child development, but I will save all of that for another time.

Like I said, I am not an expert, but this is just what works for our family. My biggest piece of advice for you new moms, is to track your babies habits, create a routine around that information, anticipate sleep regressions, and most of all BE FLEXIBLE. Babies crave routine, in what seems like a chaotic world. establishing and maintaining a routine is the best way to create a comforting environment for your little one.

Good Luck to you and I hope that you are getting the sleep you need! To help you out I have included a link to a daily schedule you can print out and fill in for yourself. This is especially useful for anyone who may be watching your little one while you are away. I would print it and put it in a cheap frame and then use dry erase marker to write on it. Or just write directly on the paper, whatever works for you!

Daily Schedule

If you have any extra tips for other parents desperate for some sleep, drop a comment and lend a helping hand!

 

 

25 Random Facts About Me

Everything Will Be Okular is going to be six months old soon. I figured I would do a fun random facts blog post so that you guys could get to know me a little better. When you’re done reading please comment a random fact about yourself, I’d love to get to know more about you!

1. I was born in Sioux City, Iowa, but I lived in Northeast Ohio most of my life.

2. I am the middle of three children, I have a younger brother and older sister.

3. Growing up I was a total tomboy, I loved getting dirty and causing trouble.

4. My nickname growing up was fingers because I touched EVERYTHING. I still have to touch things when I go out, I don’t know why!

5. I am double jointed in my toes, I can walk on on the knuckle of my toes.

6. I couldn’t read an analog clock until I was like 19

7. I used to believe that the round hay bales on farms were baby elephants because someone told me they were. I was very young.

8. I HATE grape, lime, lemon and orange flavored things. They make me nauseous.

9. Towards the end of my pregnancy I craved hot dogs ALL THE TIME.

10. When I was little, up until I was 13, I played soccer all year round. I was actually really good and had a lot of potential. But in high school I gave it up for dance line (bad idea)

11. My husband and I lived two miles away from each other and didn’t meet until 2013, when we both worked at the local DQ.

12. As a little girl I was convinced I was old than my sister because my birthday was in January and hers was in October. She is 18 months older.

13. My best friend, Jessica, and I first bonded over the Jonas Brothers.

14. I played soccer in college but quit due to a head injury.

15. My favorite show growing up was Spongebob Squarepants.

16. The first time I ever left the US was 2017 on my honeymoon, we went to Barbados.

17. My maiden name is Springer, so every new person I meet asks if I am related to Jerry Springer.

18. My grandma calls me her “little apple dumpling”

19. I grew up around women who were always baking and cooking, so I am very knowledgeable in the kitchen.

20. I am allergic to shellfish, but I want to try crab legs SO BAD!

21. The first computer game I ever remember playing was “Backyard Soccer”.

22. My favorite food is probably cheese, which is unfortunate because I am lactose intolerant.

23. When I was little we used to live with my grandma, like my whole family. I used to stay up late and tell these wild stories until I fell asleep.

24. My favorite musical is Wicked, but I’ve never actually seen it.

25. Some people say I am like the music rain man, because I can name almost any song just by listening to the first 15 seconds.

That was fun! But also really hard to think of things to tell you guys! I hope you guys got a good laugh. I can’t wait to hear some of your random facts about you, remember to drop one in the comments!

8 common questions new moms have about breastfeeding and more

I recently attended an event put on by the Raleigh Moms Blog, called Bloom. The event is geared towards new and expectant mothers. This is the fourth year in a row that the Bloom event has been held in Raleigh. Wake Med was a partner for the event, so naturally it was held at Wake Med North. The event was amazing and super informative. There were several local vendors in attendance from swim lessons, counseling services, child care, photographers and many more! It was the perfect one stop for any mom looking for local support services. I highly recommend Bloom to any mom who feels overwhelmed, and does not know where to start when preparing for baby. 

The event had two main sessions, one of which was a lactation panel. Being a breastfeeding mother, I felt it was appropriate that I sat in and learned more from a local lactation consultant. Sandy Arnold, Certified Lactation Consultant and Dr. Alisha Davis lead the session, as new and expectant moms asked a series of questions regarding breastfeeding. I decided to share these questions with you all, in hopes that any mommas considering breastfeeding ,or who are breastfeeding ,may gain a little insight!


“Ask the Experts Session: Lactation Care & First Year Needs for Baby and Mom” 

What kind of lactation problems can you experience?

Sore nipples

Latching issues

Tongue ties

Low milk supply

Side preference- which can result in decreased milk supply and sore nipples

Is it common to have issues with the rooting reflex?

If there is any misalignment in the cervical vertebrae a baby can struggle to turn their head properly  and there maybe issues with the rooting reflex.

Breastfeeding pillow, helpful?

Yes! My Brest-friend is the most helpful because it gets closer and  snugger to the body! Often times little babies can get lost in the Boppy pillow. The Boppy is great for when the baby gets older and bigger. 

Is there a difference when you introduce solids and a latch?

Oh yea, sometimes babies will hold their tongue back when eating from a spoon. So they will do the same while breast feeding. Therefore struggling to latch properly. Just continue to breast feed and this problem should work itself out.

Is there anything you can do during pregnancy to help milk supply?

Not during pregnancy, no.

Foods to produce milk flow?

You don’t have to change your diet. You want to make sure you are eating and drinking. Oatmeal, granola bars, Kind bars, the “Pink Drink” at Starbucks. Drink half of your body weight in any liquid, water, juice, tea.

After birth suggestions.

At the hospital get all the lactation help you can get. Make sure the latch is right and the baby is gaining weight. Get your rest. STAY OFF GOOGLE (that is my personal advice)

Should you pump at the hospital?

If there are serious issues, yes. But what is more helpful is hand expression. The lactation consultant at the hospital can help teach you how. Most times they will encourage you to continue trying to nurse while at the hospital. Only add pumping if the baby is not nursing well.

Best Breastpump?

Madela Pump In Style (this is the pump that I use)

Spectra S1 and S2, these pumps are hospital grade, and they have a ton of positive reviews from mommas.

First year needs for baby and mom?

Make sure that mom is taking care of herself. A lot of moms forget to take care of herself because she is so focused on baby. Make sure that she is eating and staying hydrated, this is so important to maintain milk supply.

Make sure baby is hitting all of the proper milestones. Don’t sit in the house every day, get out. Postpartum anxiety can become worsened if you isolate yourself from others. Make new friends, find a mom tribe. Fit4Mom is a great way to get out of the house, and connect with other moms.


I know that there are a ton more questions that you may have, so feel free to let me know in the comment section, and I will try my best get you an answer!

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To My Postpartum Body

There are so many things that I want to say to you. I want to say Thank You, I’m Sorry and I love you. I watched you preform the most magical act I have ever seen. You transformed into a strong cocoon, blossomed and released a beautiful butterfly, made from your own flesh. And for that I am forever grateful.

So I say Thank You. Thank you for bringing heaven to earth, in the form a sweet little angel named Elliott Grace. I used to believe that miracles rarely ever happened, and that I would never experience one of my own. And then I watched a miracle unfold right before my eyes. It was not always easy, and some days I wished it all was over, but I would never trade this precious gift for anything in the world.

I’m sorry, I am sorry for wasting so much time wishing you looked different. I am sorry for all of the horrible things I said about you, while you were transforming in order to grow my baby girl. I am sorry for not appreciating you more. When I look at you, I see a beautiful road map, with evidence of the amazing journeys you have gone on. Stretching and moving, changing to fit my little angel.

I love you. Even with all of the “flaws” , I love you. You have amazed me for months now. You have done some of the most incredible acts and you took it all in strides. You have shown me just how strong you are, and how strong I am. You have given me grace in my times of change. When I felt like I couldn’t go on, you proved to me that I can. You stood firm and protected me from not one, but two falls. I never appreciated you as much as I do now. I promise to take better care of you, and allow you the grace you have shown me. You will never be the same way you were before this amazing journey, but I am so grateful for you now.

When I run my fingers over you, I can feel every mark, every stretch and it takes me back to those first days. The first time I felt that little bump. The first time I heard my little girls racing heartbeat. The first time I felt my baby move inside of me. You are my constant reminder of where you have been, and while these marks may fade, my memory of your selflessness will not.

To my postpartum body,

Thank you, I am Sorry, I love you 💕

Traveling While Pumping, What Moms need to Know!

So you are going to travel with or without baby, but you are still pumping. If you are traveling without your baby, first, let me say WAY TO GO! As a new mom, who recently traveled by myself without baby, I know how tough it can be! You have to deal with the unnecessary guilt of leaving your baby, whether it is with your oh so loving husband, or a wonderful friend or family member. If you are traveling WITH your baby, YOU CAN DO IT! It can be tough and sometimes you may miss out on some things, but it is worth it! I have traveled several times with my daughter since she was born, so I would not say I am an expert but I have some great tips for you!

It is important to know that there is a slight difference when traveling in a car and on a plane. It is a little easier to travel in a car while pumping, if you are a passenger. If you are driving alone it can be a little more difficult. I haven’t traveled on a train but if you have let me know if there is anything moms should know!

Traveling by car while pumping

When you are traveling by car while pumping there are somethings that you will need:
  • a reliable breast pump, I currently use the Medela Pump in Style.
  • milk storage, I use bags and bottles
  • a car adapter plug for your pump
  • pumping or nursing bra
  • cooler and ice packs
  • nursing cover, this is optional I do not use one but others may want to use one

It is very important that you stick to the same feeding schedule your baby is on when you travel. This will help maintain you supply, my baby feeds every four hours during the day, so I pumped every four hours. If you are driving alone, it may be a good idea to map out places to stop before hitting the road. Unfortunately, there is a strong chance that you will have to pump sitting in your car, in a parking lot. Unless you are comfortable pumping in a public restroom. When I traveled with my family, we would stop at a rest stop and I would feed the baby, and then I would pump while my husband was driving. Then I stored the milk in the cooler until we got to our destination.

There is no law that states that hotels HAVE to provide breastfeeding mothers with a refrigerator or a freezer. However, most hotels are super accommodating and if there is not a fridge in the room, they will offer one with no extra cost. It is important to ask before making reservations.

Traveling by plane while pumping

When you travel by plane while pumping, you pretty much need the same things you need while driving.

  • A reliable breast pump
  • Travel breast pump bag, I got the cutest one from Amazon (I’ll link it below and write a post about it!)
  • Pumping or nursing bra
  • Ice packs
  • Nursing cover

When I recently flew down to Orlando, I made sure that I researched the rules and regulations of traveling with a pump and breast milk. What I discovered is that every airline allows breastfeeding mothers to bring their pump on as a carry on. However, it’s not an addition to the carry on you’re allowed, it is your personal or carry on item. Your pump bag will have to go through security, and if you have milk, they have the right to test it. Moms are allowed to have as much milk in their bag, it does not have to follow the 3 oz rule. Just let the TSA worker know you have a pump and milk.

Once you make it to the gate, depending on your pumping schedule, it is possible you may have to pump. There are a number of airports that have mother pods, they look like pop up nursing rooms. Those rooms are awesome and allow mothers to get comfortable and relax while feeding or pumping. However, some don’t and you will have to either pump at the gate, or in the bathroom. At the RDU airport, I had to stand in the bathroom and pump at the sink. Which didn’t bother me to much, but it was not relaxing to have to listen to other people use the bathroom for fifteen minutes.

Depending on the airline and flight you are on, there may be a plug by your seat. So if you have a long flight, you might have to pump while in the air. You can usually just pump in your seat, but again just let your flight attendant know and they can help you. The pumping bag I bought on Amazon (linked below) has a cooler on the bottom, so it was easy to store the milk until I got to where I was going.

Recap and additional tips:

  • When driving map out your route and plan stops to pump
  • Ask the hotel or place you are staying to provide you with a refrigerator for milk storage
  • When flying, be prepared for TSA to text your milk
  • Bring a couple bottle, and a lot of bags. Pump into a bottle and then transfer for a bag for easier storage
  • STAY HYDRATED! Drink lots of water, especially if you are traveling somewhere warmer than you’re used too
  • EAT! It is important that you remember to eat, I took protein bars with me to eat after I pumped

                         The Pump Bag I Use While Traveling

HAPPY TRAVELING MOMMA! I hope you find these tips helpful for your next trip! I would love to hear where you guys are going. If you have any other tips for traveling moms, let us know in the comments!

 

Moms have bad days too

I….had a bad day.

You woke up to eat at two a. m. and then again at five a.m. By seven thirty you were up for the day. I was already exhausted. We had to be out of the house by nine thirty for Stroller Strides, our mommy and me workout group. We were running late, and when I got half way to class, I realized I didn’t have my stroller. A pretty important tool needed for STROLLER strides. By the time we got to class we only had fifteen minutes left of the class. By eleven a.m we headed home.

You cried the ENTIRE way home. Like scream crying. I could feel the twinge of a headache coming on. When we got home I feed you. More like I wrestled a greasy pig and tried to force a bottle into your crying mouth. You finally succumbed and drank your bottle. But it wasn’t enough. You wanted more. So I warmed you up another bottle. You screamed the whole four minutes it took.

My head hurt, it felt like someone was wringing my brain out like a wet washcloth. Your bottle was finally ready, and you drank another two ounces. I wondered where you put all this milk, in such a little body. I started to burp you. You DID NOT like that. And you let me know. The big gas bubble in your belly finally made its way out of your belly.

You fell asleep.

Just as I felt myself relax, I remembered I had to drop stuff off at work.

I rushed to get ready, hoping to not wake you up.

As I was brushing my teeth, it happened.

You. Woke. Up.

I tired to soothe you back to sleep. But no success.

I gave you your WubbaNub hoping that would satiate you. NOPE.

You cried for twenty minutes while I finished getting ready.

The tiny monster inside my head began construction on my brain, jackhammering ferociously.

We got in the car, I had hoped this would lull you to sleep.

It did.

Finally some peace and quiet.

As we got closer to my work I realized I forgot all the stuff I was suppose to drop off.

How could I forget AGAIN?

I turned around and headed back home.

I cried the entire way home. I felt dumb.

After driving back home, grabbing my things. Back to my work. Which took over three hours. We headed home for the day.

Traffic was terrible. You cried the whole time. My headache grew.

When we got home you fought sleep. Hard. I sat on the couch with you in my lap. And we both cried. Again.

I doubted that I could do this. I doubted my ability to stay patient. I thought I was such a bad mom because I couldn’t soothe you.

I called your father, and yelled at him. For nothing in particular. I just needed to yell.

I told him “sometimes being a mom just sucks”

He rushed home to help me. He put you to sleep and I instantly fell asleep on the couch.

When I awoke, my headache subsided, you were sleeping peacefully in your crib.

I stood and watched you breath. You looked like a little angel.

I had a bad day.

But at least I got to spend it with you.

Our Weekend in Savannah, GA

If you are considering taking a trip to Savannah, Georgia, I highly recommend going during the “off” season! February was the perfect time to take a quick weekend trip to the “Hostess City of the South.” The forecast called for rain, but thankfully it ended up being sixty and sunny. And because it was not a high travel time, it was not crowded at all! There were still groups of travelers, especially bridal parties, but they were few and far between. Seriously though, if you can visit Savannah during the off season. DO IT, you won’t regret it!

Since we just went for a short weekend, we got an Air BnB just outside of Savannah in a town called Richmond Hill. It ended up being a pretty basic hotel room, BUT it allowed dogs which was perfect because we brought our dog, Foster with us. Also, I should mention that Savannah is REALLY dog friendly, Every restaurant we ate at brought a dog bowl of water out for him, which was so accommodating! SO many people asked to pet Foster, and Foster loved meeting and playing with all of the other dogs. If you have a dog Savannah is the perfect place to bring them along.

We really only spent one day in Savannah, but we got to see some beautiful houses, and landmarks, we also ate some DELICIOUS food! Let me back up and start from the beginning. When we first got into Savannah, around noon, the first thing I wanted to see was the River Street Markets. My FAVORITE thing about River Street was the cobble stone streets. By the way, flat mules, probably not the proper foot wear for walking blocks at a time! Moving on. We did not really go into any shops, I just wanted to see the sights and take in the beauty and history of Savannah. We stopped at the “Waving Girl” statue to take a picture and read up on some history of the Savannah River.

By this time, Ellie was getting a little hungry, so we stopped for lunch. We decided to eat at Tubby’s Seafood River Street, because they had an outside, pet friendly, patio that overlooked the river. The food was PHENOMENAL, we order Fried Green Tomatoes for an appetizer, Cory ordered a cheeseburger, and I order a Fried Mahi Sandwich with a side of coleslaw. First, I should say that this was not your typical coleslaw, it was homemade. It was light and you could taste the mustard seed, which I loved. Side note: if you order Sweet Tea, they bring you refills for free, Cory drank like eight glasses and took one for the road. If the river view wasn’t entertaining enough, there was a trumpet street performer who would play songs while people walked by, he was HILARIOUS. When the river cruise passed, he started playing “My Heart will Go On” from Titanic, and the whole patio erupted in laughter.

After lunch, since we were feeling pretty full and Elliott was ready for a nap, we decided to drive around a little and look at all of the old houses. I WAS NOT DISAPPOINTED. I love old houses, I like to imagine all of the different families that lived in each house. Each house had a beautifully colored front door, a double patio, and natural gas lanterns by the front door. There was the cutest coffee shop we found on our drive, we didn’t go in but we did snap a picture because it was just too cute.

Once we got to Forsyth Park we stopped and took a family stroll. There were not a lot of people, but almost EVERYONE had dog. Foster was in heaven, he met a puppy Australian Shepherd named Blue and two older Corgis who seemed to own the park. After taking a few pictures at the beautiful fountain in the middle of the park, and accidentally photo bombing some wedding pictures, we took a walk up Bull St. in search of some macarons. Thirty minutes ,and two blisters, later we finally arrived at Marche de Macarons! CAN I SAY, YUMMY! I am a macaron fanatic, and I am really picky about them. Marche de Macaron meet all of my expectations, Cory and I got a dozen to share. They did not last more than 24 hours.

We headed back to the motel to take a quick nap before dinner. We drove back into Savannah for dinner at Moon River Brewing Company, again we had to eat somewhere that was pet friendly. Moon River had a big patio, with heaters for the “colder” months. They even had one of those pictures you put your face in, of Audrey Hepburn and George Peppard from their roles in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, one of my favorite movies! For dinner we split a plate of nachos and three tacodillas. YOU HAVE TO TRY THESE TACODILLAS! They are made with smoked brisket, which I’ve never had and thought I wouldn’t like, I was WRONG. It was so melt in your mouth good! I wish I could have eaten a hundred of them! We sat next to a couple who were celebrating their wedding anniversary, they got married at Moon River just a year earlier. They informed us that Moon River is rumored to be one of the MOST haunted places in Savannah. So if you are into ghosts, this would be a pretty cool place to visit. We will absolutely go back and get more when we visit again.

Sunday morning we hit the road for home, but not before stopping at Peach World, because when in Georgia you have to get peaches. Unfortunately, peaches are not in season until April so instead we got some Peach Moonshine Jelly and Pecan Praline Honey Butter. Both are perfect of toast for a small snack, or for breakfast. There are only two Peach World shops in Savannah but I recommend going and getting some peach goodies!

I hope that you decide to visit Savannah soon, and stop at some of the places we tried. I promise you will not be disappointed. And if you do visit Savannah let me know what you thought and some of your favorite places. I know there are SO many good places we missed, so we will be returning to Savannah in the future!

My Top 5 Must Have Baby Registry Items

Picture this: You have just found out that you are having a baby. You are standing at the store with one of those registry guns. You look upon the aisles and aisles of baby items. You feel like an alien looking around, in a foreign land, with foreign objects. That is exactly how I felt while standing in Buy Buy Baby, preparing to start my registry. So, for the mothers to be out there, I am here to lend some advice. Below are my top five “must have” baby registry items. These are the things that my husband and I use EVERY SINGLE DAY, and probably wouldn’t survive without. The link to find each item is under each picture for your convenience!

1. Project Nursery Dreamweaver Smart Nightlight

This is the PERFECT three in one device! It is a nightlight, sound machine, and Bluetooth speaker. We have been using the Dreamweaver from the day that we brought Elliott home. The nightlight is just bright enough that I can see Elliott in her side crib at night, and the ocean sounds are the perfect sound to sooth her to sleep. The Bluetooth is simple to connect to all devices, including Elliott’s record player. I could rave about how much I love this machine ALL DAY LONG! I highly recommend.

2. Graco Duet Sway Swing/Rocker

We bought this swing/ rocker at Babies R Us during their big closing sale. It has been one of the best baby purchases we made. Elliott loved sitting in the swing and staring at the Christmas tree until she falls asleep. The swing has many settings to help comfort baby. The seat comes off VERY easily and Elliott can sit on the kitchen island while I do the dishes, make bottles, or prepare dinner. She LOVES it, and because it is a 2-in-1, the living room has remained uncluttered (for now).

3. Graco Pack and Play

So far, because Elliott is only two months old, the only features we have used of this pack and play, are the changing table and bassinet. My husband and I LOVE how convenient the changing table is because we do not have to risk an accident on the couch or rug when changing Elliott’s diaper. The bassinet is perfect for laying Elliott in when she is sleeping, and I can get in a quick shower! We plan to utilize the higher mattress setting when we travel and need somewhere for Elliott to sleep.

4. Even-Flo Modular Travel System

Can you tell how much I love multi use devices? I mean I’ll take whatever makes mom life just a little bit easier. You can use this stroller system six different ways. As a carriage, toddler seat or with the infant car seat. I love how the infant seat fits right into the base, so getting in and out of the car is quick. The base is light and snaps close easily. I leave the carriage/ toddler seat in the garage and use it when I want to take Elliott for a walk around the neighborhood. There is also a cup holder attachment for but parent and child. AND I love the classic Sandstone color, but that is just preference.

5. Boppy Pillow

My final must have is a Boppy pillow. Are you surprised to know that there are multiple uses for a Boppy? I use it when feeding Elliott, it wraps comfortable around my waist and I can lay Elliott on it while feeding. It helps save my from aching. I lay it on the couch next to me while I pump. Elliott can also lay with her belly across the top for tummy time. It also makes a great seat under different fabrics for photo shoots 😉 I have the adorable mermaid slip cover you see in the picture as well. Someone asked me if I really needed a specific pillow for the baby and my answer was YES! It is a MUST!

The main things I looked for when registering for items, especially the big items, were convenience and multi use capabilities. Babies transition a lot during their first year of life, so why not have items that grow with your child? I hope that you have found this list helpful, especially if you are just as lost as I was! Happy registering momma!