2019 Christmas Light Displays in Raleigh, NC

One of my favorite memories from Christmas time as a kid, was when we would pile into the car, hot chocolate and popcorn in hand, and we would drive around town looking at all of the beautiful Christmas light displays.

Since moving to Raleigh, I have been struggling to find where all the BEST light displays are. Well thanks to a lovely mother, in one of my mom groups, I now I have list of places she has been taking her kiddos every year.

Here is the growing list of Christmas Light displays in and around Raleigh, North Carolina!

Cary, NC

  • 101 Chestone, Cary (MacArthur)
  • 100 Fawley Court, Cary (Wellsley)
  • The house on Green Level just beyond 55
  • 100 Council Gap, Cary
  • 1033 Hortons Creek Road, Cary (Gebhardt Fam Lights
  • 200 Billingrath Turn Ln, Cary (Lowe Fam Lights)

Apex, NC

  • 1012 Holt Road, Apex (Christmas Lights on Holt)
  • 2232 Olive Chapel Road, Apex
  • 103 Cameron Glen Drive, Apex

Morrisville, NC

  • 1001 Hemby Ridge Lane, Morrisville

Raleigh, NC

  • 8501 sleepy creek drive, Raleigh (Heindel Christmas Magic)
  • 9301 Hay Meadow Court , Raleigh
  • 6331 Deerview Drive , Raleigh

Clayton, NC

  • 1620 Loop Road, Clayton, NC

Benton, NC

  • 4546 Godwin Lake Road, Benson, NC

Wendell, NC

  • 10 S. Cypress St, Wendell, NC

Wake Forest, NC

  • 5725 Fixit Shop Road, Wake Forest, NC

Hillsborough, NC

  • 7510 Guess Road, Hillsborough, NC 27278

If you know of anymore light displays comment below and share the love!

Gift Guide for New Moms

What to get a New Mom for Christmas?

Its that time of year again! When everyone rushes around trying to find that perfect gift for their loved ones. Their is always one person in our lives that we always scratch our head and question what to get them, the new mom! Whether she just had a baby or has been a mom for years now, it can be tough to figure out what to get. With my expertise, as being a new mom of course, I have created the one stop list for all things new mom gift list! I thought about the things that helped me the most during one of life’s biggest transitions, and what helped me maintain sanity!

Self Care Gifts for Mom

Now this list isn’t just for new moms, it is for all of the moms in your life! I believe that it is super important to support all mothers, and make sure that she is taking care of herself. Often times moms will push her own needs to the side to make sure that her family is taken care of. SO we, as a support system, need to remind her to step back and take care of herself. My favorite saying is “you can’t drink from an empty well.” I practically live by that saying, and I never feel guilty about taking care of myself.

So here are some perfect items to help mom take care of herself this holiday season!

Pajama Sets to Keep mom warm this winter


New moms spend A LOT of time in their pajamas, so make sure she feels warm and comfortable!

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The Perfect Slippers for mom


How cute are those MAMA BEAR slippers?

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the best Epsom salt for a cozy sitz bath


Sitz baths are the ONE thing that helped heal my tear from birth!

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Eye masks to de-puff the sleep deprived momma


THE STRUGGLE IS REAL

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Tea to help calm the overwhelmed mother


Help mom find her peace with some yummy teas!

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Water bottles to remind the breastfeeding mom to stay hydrated


It is SUPER important that mom drinks LOTS of water!

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Coffee mugs to give mom that boost of energy

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Mama necklaces perfect for mom to show off her new favorite job

Every MAMA could use a cute, dainty necklace!


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best Protein bars to keep mom fueled for a long day

Its not out of the ordinary for mom to make it to the end of the day, and remember that she forgot to eat!


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Leggings for the fashionable yet comfortable mom

High-waisted leggings helped me fell all tucked in and secure!


Aerie Leggings

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BLANQI Leggings

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Comfy Hoodies for mom

Comfy hoodie + No bra = Happy Mama


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Socks to keep moms feet warm on a cold night

I love a good fuzzy sock to keep these toes warm!


Best Blankets to cuddle under with family

Baby cuddles are the best cuddles!


Spa gift card


Spa Finder

Meal plan subscription for the busy mom


Baby food subscription for the health CONSCIOUS mom



Happy Shopping!

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5 Tips For Amazing Sex After Baby!

Guess what, MOMS STILL HAVE SEX! Yes, I know shocking right.

A lot changes after having a baby. One of the most significant changes, is your body. Not only are there going to be some changes to your body on the outside, but there will be changes on the inside. Specifically, sex after baby will change, and that is NOT a bad thing. It may seem scary and I know some women have anxiety over having sex for the first time after baby, but I personally think it’s like having sex with your partner for the first time.

When my doctor gave me the green light to have sex again, she gave me a few pointers to help make the experience less, ummm….painful. Of course I went home and consulted Dr. Google in hopes of getting a little bit more advice from some fellow moms. Per the usual, I was overwhelmed by the amount of information and opinions that flossed my phone screen.

So naturally I decided to add my own take to the mix. I have narrowed it down to five simple tips to get you started, whether it’s your first time having sex after baby, or you hundredth, I believe these tips will help EVERY woman, not just mothers.

First, I want to make sure I say this, there is nothing wrong with you if you do not feel comfortable enough jumping back into bed the second your doctor gives you the thumbs up. Between lack of sleep, possibly breastfeeding, taking care of a baby all day, not showering for days on end, and a thousand other things, you might just not be in the mood for your partner to touch you. Maybe you would rather take a long hot bath, or squeeze in a nap when you can. That is all totally normal, and you are not “failing” your partner. They will understand, and if they don’t well they will just get over it. Just make sure you have that conversation together.

1. Reintroduce yourself to, well…. yourself.

Yes. No one knows you better than you know yourself, and no one should know you better than you. Maybe you weren’t big into self love before baby, maybe the idea seems taboo. Well I am here to tell you, DO YOU. And you know what I mean. Take an hour, give the baby to your partner, shut the bedroom door, turn on some music, light some candles, maybe hop into a warm bubble bath.

2. Talk with your partner

In most things in life, communication is key. Sit down and talk about the fears you may have about having sex, or any emotions you might be feeling. Make sure you explain, that things are going to be different and the same old dance routine might not do it for you anymore. Sometimes men can be simple, and when they find a strategy that works, they tend to stick with it forever. If you have taken the time to get to know your new self, tell your partner what you liked.

Once you are in the heat of the moment; make sure to KEEP communicating. Maybe you are usually quite and reserved, but now is the time to speak your mind. At this point your partner is probably driving blind, so it’s up to you to let them know what to do. They will appreciate getting a little directions and not feeling so lost.

3. Lube, it’s more important than you think!

My doctor stressed how important it was that if we haven’t already, we started using lube. She said after having a baby, and especially if you are breast feeding, your body body doesn’t produce the natural lubricant during sex, that it usually does. This can make sex a little, uncomfortable. Don’t forget the scar tissue that you may have after tearing.

Invest in a good water- based lube. Why water-based? Water-based lubes are perfect for first time lube users. They are ideal for people with vaginal irritation and/or sensitive skin, you know that comes with having a baby. Water based lubes can be used with condoms and sex toys, but they can not be used for shower sex. Another downside is that water based lubes tend to get sticky, so you may have to reapply a couple times during longer sessions.

I recommended getting a few and trying them out, and seeing what works best for you. I have included a few brands below that have been recommended to me by a good friend of mine.

They have a TON of different flavors
KY is my go to lube!
Water Based Lube options

4. Toys, they aren’t just for kids

Uh oh! Another “taboo” topic we aren’t suppose to talk about. Well, news flash, sometimes a woman CAN’T orgasm with out a little outside stimulation. Maybe before baby you could orgasm with some basic penetrative sex, but now everything’s changed and you need to bring in the big guns. This is were vibrators come into play. Now, you don’t need to go out and buy the biggest most expensive vibrator out there. A small pocket vibrator will do the trick. However, I suggest something water proof, and that has a few different settings that you can play around with and feel what works best for you! Before you use your toys with your partner, be sure to try them out by yourself first. The two below come highly recommended by a friend of mine Samara Terese, you can check out her blog at Barely Surviving My Twenties

Comes in three different colors!

5. Get rid of the kid!

That sounds harsh, I know. But there are two things that are total mood killers. One, a dog jumping on the bed trying to lick your husbands butt. And two, a baby who wakes up screaming and wants to be feed. The dog you can stick outside or give them some peanut butter until you are done. But you can’t really just stick your baby outside for a half hour. You can, however, ask a friend or relative to babysit for a few hours. If you’re child is in daycare by now, you can leave work early to have a little rendezvous with your partner before you go and pick up your sweet little one. It doesn’t make you a bad mother to take time for yourself and your partner!

I remember someone gave me a little piece of advice after I had my baby. They said “Your child is going to leave you in eighteen years, and that’s good, that is suppose to happen. But your marriage lasts forever. So don’t forget to take care of your marriage and each other.”

-Disclosure: Bear in mind that some of the links in this post are affiliate links and if you go through them to make a purchase I will earn a commission. Keep in mind that I link these companies and their products because of their quality and not because of the commission I receive from your purchases. The decision is yours, and whether or not you decide to buy something is completely up to you